December 31, 2014

I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. I don’t believe in them. You shouldn’t either. If you choose to make a change in your life, the time is now. Why wait until the new year which is some arbitrary deadline that only causes procrastination?

It has been a long five year journey for me since I started over in life. For some reason, the culmination of events has started to really come together for me recently. I’m empowering myself and making my life what I want it to be and making myself who I want to be regardless of the vast amount of negativity, selfishness, greed, and apathy I’ve encountered in the world.

Okay, thank goodness. Because I think I am at like "F" or "G" by now...

Okay, thank goodness. Because I think I am at like “F” or “G” by now…

My biggest struggle has been my perfectionist tendencies. I feel like a failure, well, mostly because I am one. We all are. There isn’t a single person who hasn’t failed. Accepting this and realizing that failure is a part of life has been difficult for me. It is especially difficult when you are told for most of your life you are a failure and will never amount to anything. It only drives home the point inside of me and works to crush my self-confidence.

Through a series of events, I’ve worked to learn that we are only failures if we quit. And, I haven’t quit. I’m also learning that success isn’t measured by hitting a grand slam either. For those that are not baseball fans, a grand slam is a home run that occurs when a player is on each base, thus bringing in four runs, the maximum that can score at a time. We can still hit singles, doubles, triples, and even draw walks, and still work to get runners in position to score runs. Success comes in all shapes and sizes.

I challenge myself in 2015 to:

1) Continue to build on the success I achieved in 2014 and work to achieve goals and look at the big picture to see how they fit the larger scheme of my life.

2) Understand that small victories are still victories and not failures.

3) Learn from my failures and not give up.

I challenge each of you to do the same.




8 thoughts on “December 31, 2014

  1. Many new year resolutions are made solely because of procrastination. I like to state what I can do the next year, but push myself further with what I know can happen. Like reading more books than I did the previous year or finishing the manuscript of my novel.

    But I really enjoy yours. It is definitely something many people can strive towards. Every victory no matter how small really is still a victory. And we get so caught up in what should be and how things are supposed to happen that we cannot get passed what we’ve already achieved. It is a continuous struggle. And I wish you the best in the New Year and I look forward to reading more of your blog!


    • Very good point. That is the part I have really struggled with – the expectations I had for my life and dealing with feelings associated with them not moving in the direction I wanted. In some regard, I view it as a positive because it means I care. I would rather care and fail than be apathetic all my life.


  2. Thanks for your openness about yourself in this entry. I appreciate the reminder and encouragement to be more proactive through your own experiences.

    I agree that ideally goals should not solely be calendar initiated ( December 31, January 1, or one’s birthday, etc.). However, I do see the value and appeal of using a date as a starting point for the majority of people. The date is a reminder that ~365 days have passed. The other hurdle is getting a habit formed, which is another story!

    I think it’s great that you’re reflective and motivated enough to set some challenging goals for yourself! Keep up the good work!


    • Thank you for reading and the very thoughtful comment. I’m glad I provided some encouragement!

      Changes definitely need to become a habit and lifestyle to stick. I wish you the best in the new year!


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