Beauty – Six Word Story

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Beauty can’t beheld by poisoned eyes.

This is a photo of Lizzie Velasquez. About 9 years ago, someone posted a video clip to the internet called “The Ugliest Woman In The World” which featured pictures of Velasquez. Little did the creator of the video know (or likely care) is that Lizzie suffers from two rare diseases, Marfan and lipodystrophy, which doesn’t allow her to gain weight. She is also completely blind in her right eye. Comments on the video included viewers encouraging Velasquez to “kill herself” and wondering why her parents would keep her.

Lizzie was crushed but owned the situation and has now become a spokesperson for acceptance of oneself and inspiring others with body image issues. To read more about her story check out this link.

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14 thoughts on “Beauty – Six Word Story

    • As I have grown older and progressed further in my own personal journey of growth, the thing I have found that I am the least forgiving of is dealing with people’s insecurities and how they deflect and project them out so they don’t have to face them.

      Whoever did this is clearly not happy with themselves and found someone who they (incorrectly) assumed is more miserable than they are in an effort not to have to look at themselves figuratively and literally in the mirror.

      Even as a child, I was able to look at things from the perspective of what if this was me, my family member, friend, or more pertinent now, my child.

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  1. We all judge but the judging has gotten out of control since we are able to comment anonymously online. It doesn’t mean we’re worse it means we know how bad we can be, because we have that anonymity. It’s such chicken-shit though because if we were actually face-to-face we wouldn’t say it. So basically we should assume people talk behind our backs? Yes. I think I assume this because at one time I would hear people who were anglo talking badly about hispanics and assuming since I looked white I was ‘one of them’ and was ‘safe’ to talk about this in front of me. Likewise when my black friends talk among me about disparaging things to do with white people, they assume I’m okay with it because my mom is African. It’s all about letting out the things you feel in a safe way, but the sad thing is, why do we feel those things to begin with? I have judged people. I remember one time when I was around ten years old I said one of my friends was fat and I never forgave myself because she over-heard me. I felt so ashamed. It changed me. I tried really hard. From then on I didn’t do those things but I felt that if I had to try it meant it was still possible. So what I’m saying is nobody is perfect but why say something like ‘she should kill herself?’ I mean sure, it’s hard to be disabled or disfigured, but what would even cause someone to think this was the answer? On the other hand we have people who will kill an abortion doctor, isn’t that exactly what they are protesting about? People can be MAD and CRUEL and EVIL and I’m glad my friend you stand up for those who are tormented, it says a lot about your soul and your good heart. The world badly needs more of them.

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    • You are correct that we all judge. It is just a matter of acting on it which this individual did. As I noted to Son of a Beach, people that act this way are just deflecting their own insecurities because they are too much of a coward to face themselves and try to grow. They try to find people they assume are weaker than they are to prey upon.

      I understand what you mean. When I was in my teens, I used the terms “faggat”, “gay”, “fag”, and “queer” in a derogatory sense. About the time I was in my late teens and really started to discover who I was and begin a journey of personal growth, I started to question myself in a number of ways. One of the ways was the words I used. I hate when people say “words don’t matter.” They do – a lot. Words have caused great leaders to inspire great change – both positive and negative. No one knows the power of words more than we do as writers.

      Anyways, back to my example. After using one of these terms, I asked myself, “Why did I say that?” I didn’t have negative feelings towards homosexual people and I was raised better than to use terms that were derogatory like that. I realized there really was no reason I was doing this. I was simply following others and trends. It showed how weak I truly was. I was using a word I didn’t believe in or even understand what it meant in a sense. In that moment, I decided I wasn’t going to use terms like that anymore and that included the word “retard.” That was probably almost 20 years ago and I have stuck to that pledge.

      I try to think a lot about my actions and words. Sadly, as I showed with my example, this isn’t something I have always done – but I do now. I try to think about how my actions and words will affect others and will be perceived. It doesn’t mean I bow down to people or cave to other people’s expectations. But I do work to try and earn other people’s respect. It was part of my growth and a real learning curve.

      I think a lot of people just don’t think. In your example, people will make jokes or say things in what they feel is a protected environment but one on one or in-person, they tend to feel differently. I can’t really explain it.

      An interesting note. This current generation is the first to have completely grown up with cell phones and computers. We are losing our ability to communicate effectively and show common courtesy. There is too much distance (literally) with our communication and it results in a sense of removal. I think this has become so common place that people just don’t have this sense of empathy anymore. People are so used to saying something on a computer or text and not having to face the repercussions of their actions. But, if you are face to face with that person then you have to deal with the person.

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      • I admire you for this reason. It is easy if you are brought up to recognize those derogatory terms are indeed, without merit, but to be brought up to see them as normallized and THEN to see the value in changing that perspective and evolving into a new one where you realize the pain they would cause and you can move from your former perspective to one of inclusion and acceptance? I admire that because it’s easy to come at something if it was always your perspective but to be from a radically different one and to evolve into understanding, that shows a growth, a strength, a fortitude and a surrender of your former beliefs. That takes courage. It is easy for example for someone who is pro-choice to say, I think abortion access should be legal. But for someone who would not personally have an abortion and for them still to say ‘it is the right of others to make their own choices’ shows that they have more courage in saying this despite how it may not even be what they themselves would do. I can’t put it into good words right now (haven’t had enough cafffeine!) but you know what I mean I know you know what I mean. Your journey, your growth, the places you were, versus the places you have FORGED for yourself out of your courage, your denial of a path that was set for you, but was not YOUR true path, those things show your character and make me respect you only more and more

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      • It is important we always look to grow. Once we stop growing, we are dying. We are all shaped by our experiences. I often imagine that most people would actually be surprised at themselves if they really reflected on their words and actions. Most people just “do” and do not think. They give little consideration to their actions and words.

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      • Thank you for reminding me of this, I know it but sometimes I am guilty of being comfortable and not growing and you are so right my wise and good friend – that’s true most just ‘do’ and really don’t realize that everything we do (butterfly effect) influences other things

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      • I have also learned that I have to let go of the things I can’t control, which was difficult for me. For too long, I allowed others to control and dictate my behavior and emotions, as I was reactive to their own behaviors.

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